I got a DM on Instagram from one of you guys recently that really struck a cord with me. The message I received was along the lines of a girl wanting to loose some body fat, but felt bad about feeling that way because we are told to love and accept ourselves. She said those messages were confusing. And I thought, ummm, HELL YES THEY ARE! I don’t know why it just hit me in that moment how conflicting those messages are. On the one hand, we are constantly told to love ourselves just how we are, yet we are also flooded with information “how to get in shape” and “how to feel confident” –all of which typcially include making changes to our diet and workout routine.
So, yes, those messages are super confusing and conflicting even. But here’s my take on it. I will first say this–there is nothing wrong with wanting to “look good.” I’m not going to sit here and pretend that it doesn’t feel great to be in your best physical shape. I’m not going to tell you that you don’t need to set a (physical) goal for yourself because you want to look a certain way. I get that part of feeling confident in your own skin comes from how you look.
What I will tell you is that you need to understand that happiness doesn’t come from looking a certain way. It feels great to work towards a physical goal you have, and as a result of your progress you should feel good about yourself and should feel proud! But, you have to realize that just because you aren’t there yet, doesn’t mean that you should carry around negative thoughts towards yourself. For example, right now I am eating more carbs because I am trying to gain more muscle. Do I love myself less now because I am carrying more body fat while my carbs are increased, no! I don’t look at myself and think, “Wow. If only I was leaner, then I would be happier with who I am as a person.”
I guess my point is this. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel great in your own skin, and sometimes that may include fat or weight loss. Or maybe that includes trying to put on weight or muscle. Meaning– just because you are working towards a goal doesn’t mean that there is nothing wrong with how you are now! You can be excited about hitting that goal but you don’t need to have negative self talk during the process.
Any thoughts on this topic?? Would love to hear what you guys think xx C
Shop The Post
*PS. This crop & leggings can be found at Sculptique and you can use CLAIRE20 for a discount! I couldn’t link them above but figured you guys would want a discount if you can get one! Here are the leggings & here is the crop top! Both fit true to size; I’m wearing a small in leggings (the cropped version) and a medium in the crop.